Have you ever been in love
I just thinnk love is a hard thing to find.When you find it keepit hold on to it.
Nashville mike modrak divorce
Have you ever been in married？
Yes I was married for11 years.And then I got divorce.And I was the first time I was married too.I didn't married to till I was 43 years old..I met this young lady and we got married.And then,she just didn't want to be married anymore.I don't understand it,but you know,，she had to do what was best for her.
Why wouldnt you get married again？
Because I don't wanna go through the hurt again.When I took those vows，for me it was for life，you know，as far as I concerned。But it wasn’t.People fall out of love. People change. And what they want and what the other person wants it's just different.. And true love is a whole different thing. That only comes once in a while once in a lifetime, I think.
Have you had that?
Yes, I have.
Was that with your ex-wife?
No, as a matter of fact.It was... God, it must be, like, 20 years ago,but every time I hear her name immediately the image of her pops in my head and I get those little butterflies and everything like that.
Why didn't it work out?
She was dating somebody else at the time and she just... she was, like, this close to giving it up and being with me and she just couldn't do it.
And did you know she was dating someone at the time?
Yeah, but what does that matter?If they're not married or engaged, they're fair game.
You think so?
You know what I mean? Yeah.I mean, it's just a boyfriend.
Cause, I mean, you could be the one she's really looking for, right?
But I think the problem with true love is that it has to be on both sides.That's what makes it so difficult.Like she might have been my true love,but maybe I wasn't her true love.
how do you know if you ever found love?
Well, I'll tell you a little story.
Last May I took a trip up to Alaska to go grizzly hunting.And I was 130 miles north of the Arctic Circle On horseback for two weeks.And it was just me, my guide and my wrangler.So we were riding along and we had to cross this river.And it was late spring,so the water was very very high and very very cold..There were big chunks of ice in the river and it was freezing.So anyway, we were crossing this river and I almost made it to the other side when my horse lost its footing and rolled,and me and the horse went down the river.The water was moving really really fast.It overtook me and it held me under the water for a good 30 seconds... 45 seconds.And I remember it being very serene,a very pretty color.And I was just floating there, like in space.And I was saying to myself,"I can't die like this. This isn't the way to go."And then all of a sudden I saw Sarah's face... my ex-wife.And she didn't say anything to me. She didn't look at me.And that's when I started reaching for it and I power-swam to the top and popped out of the top of the river,grabbed onto a little branch and got out. And my guide had a big bonfire going.
And I'm here to tell the story, so obviously I survived. But the point of the story is that the love from that marriage was still there.And when I came home I told Sarah the story and she said that she was sitting there working on her computer,and that's the profile I would have seen of her just sitting there at her desk.And like I was saying before about the one true love that might have been,
I didn't see her face when I was almost dying,but it was Sarah's face that I saw.So going back and looking at that,maybe she was the true one love.And I guess I'll just never know.
Oklahoma city mary beth and sid hardy high school sweetheart
Do you remember your first date?
Yes. I invited him to my birthday party at 14.What began as an infatuation bloomed into full love.
And he proposed our junior year in high school.
Do you remember how you proposed to her?
No, do you? No.
I'm sure I wasn't on my knees.
No.My mom and dad were not for me marrying that early,but they knew that I loved him and that we wanted to be together.And they had to sign for me to be married because I was only 17.
Oh, yeah? So they did. I think the young love can sometimes be the most important.I know that many people now are waiting until later to get married,but I think you lose something.
We could have chosen not to marry before he went to college,but waiting five years would have lost much of the magnetism that we had for each other.I'm not advising everyone to get married at 17,but it can work.It sure is not for everybody.
We had a lot of friends who got married young, and it didn't work out for them. But it did for us.
How did you guys know that you were in love if you've never been in love before?
Wait for the lightning bolt. I've been saying that all of our lives.Sometimes it's slow and it grows
and all of a sudden you realize it's there.Many times it happens in the beginning like it did with us.
We'd like to share one thing in asking what events might have stuck out in our mind through the years.I was ready to deliver our second son when he had to go to the reserve camp.I was in the reserves and I'd spent two weeks at Fort Polk.And even though we knew our son was coming,I still had to go to camp.But they did send me back when our child was born.We had a pretty dramatic birth with several dangers involved with myself and my son,so I was especially excited
to hear the clomp of his army boots running down the hall.I knew he was there. We were all okay.
He runs into the room,saw that we were okay,and immediately passed out on the floor.And we will always remember that birth.We got laundry on the third floor.
Amarllo
How would you define a divorce?
I think probably the best definition of divorce is the taking of two people who once proclaimed their love for each other and separating them as far as you can apart.
Why is there so many divorces?
Well, one thing is they're not getting to know each other enough before they decide to get married,
and they get married too quick.That could be one thing.And another thing is, you know, we're not a very patient society.And so I think that maybe people get into relationships,and if they're not exactly the way they want them and there's no quick fix, they just give up.
Do you think that this job has given you perspective on love or changed it at all?
Oh, absolutely. I mean, the people I see in here makes me realize that there are many many people more dysfunctional than I.
That's nice. That's reassuring.
When we go home at night, we've spent all day hearing clients, or people in his court,you know, say terrible things about each other and talk about the terrible ways they're treated each other.We both go home at night and think,"Whew, aren't we lucky? We don't have all those problems."And it really gives you a different perspective, I think.If you can hang in there and you really love 'em,it gets better all the time.
Well, that, and the learning to overlook other people's shortcomings.We all have bad breath when we wake up in the morning.
That's true.
Accepting the fact that just because he says,
"Pull this finger," and giggles. you can get along with that.
Sally and I met in Houston in, oh, I guess, 1980.I was working as an associate judge down there
in one of the Family Law courts in Houston, in Harris County, and she was practicing law in that court.And I thought that I would really like to go out with her,not to mess up our professional relationship.And I hinted to her boss that I would like to do so,and I think she put pressure on Sally to do that,to go out with me.
True?
Yes, she did.
She threatened to fire me if I didn't go out with him.
And I did not want to go out with him at all.I had another boyfriend at the time.I was not interested in dating, but...
The other boyfriend never talked, though.
Well, that is true.But in order to keep my job, yes, I did go out with him.And I had a fairly decent time.But what really convinced me that I wanted to go out with him again was a little later.Maybe a week or two later after our dateit was a downpour in Houston.And I was at the courthouse.I was wearing a pair of Gucci loafersthat I had just purchased the weekend before.And I spent more money on those Gucci loafers than I had ever spent in my life on a pair of shoes.I think they might have been $154.I was just devastatedbecause I had parked several blocks away from the courthouse and I had to leave and it was pouring down rain.And as I left his court,I think I probably said something like,"Well, I sure don't want to ruin my new shoes,but I guess it's pouring down rain." And it was just a gullywasher.And I remember Don saying,"Don't worry about it. I'll take care of it."He goes, "You just wait right here."And he said, "I'll be right back."He went and got in his car, which was a Jeep,and he drove it up onto the plaza in front of the Family Law courts building in Houston and drove up under the porch.And so he opened the door and said, "Hop in."
And I just walked dry, under the porch,got in his jeep and we drove off. And he took me to my car.
And I thought, "Now that's cool.Who would drive up on downtown Houston up onto the plaza of the Family Law courts building?"And I thought, "You know what? I think I'd better stick with him."
Bob and lois married 50
When you meet somebody and you just get that feeling like you'd known them forever and they're definitely a part of your life and you can't imagine life without them and you want to be with them every minute of every day and share everything with them, that's love.
I remember asking my mom, "When do you know you're in love?"And she said, "It's when you can't stand to not be with that person."
It just hit me when I talked to him.When I first saw him even,you know, I thought, "Wow." And then when I talked to him, I knew right away that that was the one.
When you've been married for a long time you have this history. Nobody can replace that You know, you've got all these memories that you share together.It's worth really fighting for and working for.You can't replace that person. You can't.
Sometimes you just gotta live and see what happens,even if you get hurt.Sometimes you can only feel something if you take a risk.
You mean everything to me
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