/关于失去
故事的开始，Eileen因为脑癌去世。Norman在医院里Eileen的病榻前，久久地坐着，不肯离去。他懊悔道，Eileen想要在家里平静地死去的，可是他太害怕了，于是不顾Eileen的反对，送她来到了医院。尽管从妻子生病开始，他就一直知道等待他们的结局是什么。可是当这一刻到来的时候，他仍然不知所措，只知道懊恼没有能够满足妻子最后的愿望。
Eileen的葬礼上，Norman精心满足了她留下的instruction上的每一个要求，连她建议的在葬礼致辞前开的一个小玩笑都没有遗漏。Norman的致辞温暖而平实，诉说着他和Eileen对彼此长达46年的依恋和默契 - 喜悦只有在与你分享后才让人感到真实，痛苦也只有在向你抱怨后才变得可以忍受。
Dear Eileen,
We have been husband and wife for 46 years.
In all that time, I have never not been in love with you.I've been angry with you, confused by you, or even hurt by you, but never not in love.
...
If something good happened to me at work, it wasn't real until I shared it with you.If something bad ha... happened, it was only tolerable because I had you to complain to.
If I heard a funny joke, my first thought was, "I cannot wait to tell you, Eileen."Then I would get to hear your laugh, or you would roll you eyes and tell me the joke was a stinker, and we would both laugh.
I honestly do not know how to carry on without you.But I will because you told me to, in no uncertain terms.
最近常在思考苦难的意义。Sandy对学生们说，要珍惜你们的苦难，从苦难中体会情绪 - 这对表演者来说是极为重要的财富。对于非表演者来说，苦难的意义大概在于，可以让人更接近自己，更珍惜拥有，以及有更多的韧性去面对新的苦难。人总是要为自己的苦难赋予意义的，宗教也好，精神胜利法也罢。可是这种意义的赋予本身就是带有悲观色彩的。一如Norman那番引起学生们掌声不息的发言：
You know what it's like to be human?
It hurts to be human. It hurts like hell.
And all the exlporing in the world doesn't make that hurt go away.
Because being human, and being hurt are the same damn thing!
/关于The Kominsky Method
回到这部剧，The Kominsky Method，到底是一个怎样的理论呢？在Sandy鼓励Norman的话语中，The Kominsky Method是化解孤独的陪伴。但我更觉得，其实在开头，Sandy就在表演课上给出了他的解释：
... We must love our creations.
We must imbue them with our life, with character, with hope and dreams and fatal flaws, and then... we must let them go.
Because in the end... true love... is letting go.
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第8集完结
