希望沟壑

我最喜欢这部电影的地方在于导演没有局限于爱情的消散，婚姻的破裂，或者两个人组成一个家庭后那种剪不断理还乱的复杂关系，而是借由婚姻的破裂呈现了个体的孤独、痛苦还有最终只有依靠自己继续前行的那种平凡又熠熠生辉的勇气。在这个大的母题下每个人都有自己要探索的生命主题，不论你处在生命的哪个阶段。Edward遇到Angela之后，看到了自己一直想要的生活的样子，于是鼓起勇气不顾一切逃离了这段对他来说充满了消耗的婚姻；Grace从不能接受到抬头挺胸地承认自己爱过但却希望他们从未相遇；Jamie在目睹了父亲的懦弱逃离和母亲歇斯底里下的痛苦后，对自己和生活有了新的领悟，而Edward和Grace在离婚后以不同的方式各自继续生活也让他为忍受自己的痛苦看到了一丝希望。

演员的表演自不必说，电影的场景虽然简单，但节奏很好，台词含蓄又细腻。非常非常喜欢Jamie和Grace聊到是否要Get out时Jamie的剖白，还有最后部分写给父母的诗：

I want you to know that I do understand. After all, suppose it was cancer and you were in unbearable pain and dying only too slowly… then I’d say end it now, wouldn’t I? Out of my love for you. So if your life hurts you so much that you want to end it, I won’t stop you. out of my love for you. Only just tell me. Don’t let it be a surprise. Give me time to say goodbye.

I can’t ask you to live for me. But we each have to carry our own burden. You’re like the explorer, you’re further down the end. You’ve gone on ahead. So if after a while you don’t go on anymore, then I’ll know that the road is too hard and for too long, I’ll know in the end, the unhappiness wins. But if you do go on and bear it, terrible as it is, then I’ll know that however bad it gets, I can last it out because you did before me.

I began by thinking I could save you

But in the end, all I can do is honor you

My mother, first among women, my warmth and comfort.

My safety, my pride, you’re the one I want to please.

You’re the one I want to applaud me.

My father, first among men, my teacher and my judge,

the man I know I will become.

You grow older now.

You’ll still ahead of me as you’ll always be forever

Further down the road.

Forgive me for needing you to be strong forever,

Forgive me for fearing your unhappiness.

As you suffer, so I shall suffer

As you endure, so I shall endure

Hold my hands and walk the old walk

One last time

Then let me go.